Mumbai Diaries : Past Relationships, Baggage and Trusting again.
Isn't it easy to blame someone for all the hurt that comes to you?? Do you ever look inside, do you even indulge in some level of soul-searching to find out what caused you pain??
I do that all the time... Not to analyze the reason for my pain or to find someone to blame it onto... but to understand why things went the way I never wanted them to.
For some people, it is easy to become a sorry figure, to sit in a corner and point fingers at the other person. But, do we even realize that there is always two in a relationship and when things go wrong, both suffer.
Being with someone who does not trust you is a huge battle to win. You have to prove yourself every moment, you have to make sure in front of them 24X7 that you are not going to turn your back to them and never come back.
The important aspect of any relationship is TRUST and if you expect loyalty from someone, you gotta give them some of yours. You gotta trust to be trusted.
Yes, things go wrong. Yes, people ditch. Yes, people are mean. But that does not mean that you will start suspecting every single person who comes your way. Don't judge someone on the basis of all the people you have met in the past. It becomes really difficult for the person to prove himself/herself at every juncture just to win your vote of trust.
If you love and respect yourself... you will see it all coming back to you in two-folds...
Don't make it tough for the other person in a relationship by comparing them to everyone you have met in the past. let them breathe. let them create newer memories with you.
Learn. Grow. Explore. Take some. Give some and things will look up soon. Most importantly, TRUST!!!
No matter how many times your heart has been broken by random people....never stop trusting, loving and hoping.. They make you who you are.
Remember there is someone out there who is suffering as much as you are.. who is trying to make it work.If you can't do anything else to help them... at least DON'T make it tough for them...
Sometimes you have someone really genuine ... feeling for you... doing things for you.. taking care of you and you lose them just because you compare and you never let them inside your fence.
Think about it. Love ya.
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