Reach out before its too late....
When they say "its not an easy life"...They mean it.
Mom's colleague's nephew committed suicide last nite coz he could not get the marks he wanted in the first of year of his college...and it has SHOCKED me... n brought back the memories from the past when mom's best friend's son did the same.
I can't judge the people who decide to kill themselves... they have their reasons... but when something like this happens around you...You regret...regret not being there when the person wanted you to listen...regret that u did not make that one call and told him/her that things will be fine.
Like Mom asked me " Did not he think once what his paralytic mom will go thru?"... I wanted to tell her " Mom, when a person decides to kill himself, he knows nothing except just being there, and doing that"...
I don't want to debate on this... all I want to say here is... Whenever you know someone is going thru a low,be there... tell them, you will always be there... and things will look up for sure...
Trust me!! THIS helps... I had no one who cud tell me all this when I went thru the dark period in my life... not that no one tried... its just that... when you are going thru a rough period, you tend to shut all doors that reach you...and some people never try to make an effort to push open those doors...
At that very moment, when someone stands by you and makes an effort to reach out,to help you dream again... YOU START BELIEVING THAT IT IS GOING TO BE ALL FINE.
After what I saw in my life, I make an effort everyday to reach out, to listen and to understand the people around me...Sometimes I am able to solve their problems... Sometimes all I can do is just be there... and tell them "Everythingz gonna be alrite. Keep faith".Faith does work wonders... and so does a friend's support... a kind gesture... and just a lil bit of listening and warmth...
I know every article, every blog and every book says that... but...We, the humans are so lazy and ignorant to this, that we need to be reminded again and again... so that we do not REGRET later...
Talk...Share a smile... Hug that someone today... :) Who knows its gonna brighten it up for them...
Stay happy and remember that its a precious life... why did God not make us one of the Happy Singh's (that's my pet ;))... he gave us this life so we cud make the most of it...
U will stumble.. U will fall.. but get up...shout at him (GOD) and get going!! :) Love ya!!
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Gosh everytime i read about suicides it made me remember those nights in college when this friend of mine went through phase of suicides....and i am glad today i was there even if on phone and used even if means of scaring him through warnings about myself....because it helped in some instances ....and that phase is a dark phase he is over with
i know i went through one dark phase where i didn't let anyone enter it...but somehow that experience with my friend never let me stoop to losing....and luckily when i wanted to recover i had someone to help me out of that dingy place.....so i know how important that word or hug is
this made me remember a story about a guy without friends who was hugged by a friend on a day he planned suicide and that hug saved him
so always spread love...hug someone...tell them someone does loves you...matter a lost....
wish noone is ever alone in their dark phases it kills..
great post as always
Loved it
Mwaahz
what to say on the sad topic?no one really get time for another one today. even your best names dont come near you in the gloomy season.And thats the thing from where this all starts.people start thinking such persons a looser in life just becouse they are going through bad era!!A small word of encouragement can make a lot of difference!
u kno wat i too have a similar opinion..yaar..Tho i can't blame them cos i reely dunno the reasons..but actually spking they all hav had bigger reasons to liv life than to finish it off ...tats it yaar!!
Thanks Harshita
i dont no why i m feeling perhaps ths message is for me..
anyways...
tk cr
Pallav
...& since u don't want to debate on this. I will pray peace for his family
koi mujhe bhi hug karo na yaar..
;)
my prayers are with that mother now...
its a sensitive issue... and yes I agree...
to reach out is as important as listening when someone tries to talk to us...
sad to hear this...
take care mate...
my sympathies for the family
as good as it could be written, well sometimes life goes through a rough patch, but that doesnt mean we just let go of it and think it will be all right, as i read somehwre tough time dont last, tough people do.
i liked the way you said it, when some one is there to share your pain and happiness it just becomes more easy to live life to the fullest, if only everyone understood this, because this whole world is just to busy for sharing love, its only money that counts they say, what foolish people
well wondefully written, good work harshita
take care and keep writing......
Hey thats something i always wished to tell people.
I dont wanna say much on this..My next post will be on something i wished to say my way..
Thanks for inspiring me to write my next post.
MANN KI BAAT BOL DI YAAR...
hugsss
it ws really bad to hear such news...der r few ppl who dnt want to take burden..or der r unable to carry d same....dey get low when dey get scoldings....and tht too repeated ....some r very weak inside
weak needs shoulder...he/she needs support at tht tym...
nice harshita ...its a good message to all of us
hugsss again
What a beautiful post. It's absolutely true. I hope that many will read your words and take them to heart. Thanks for speaking this truth.
Best wishes,
Skeeter
Pak Karamu reading your blog
nice post..
i agree... i have no clue what to say
its just that... when you are going thru a rough period, you tend to shut all doors that reach you...and some people never try to make an effort to push open those doors...
a tear just trickled down my cheek!
Thank u for writing this post harshita!
Will help me over come the bitch that i m turning into!!!
this is a dark hour of my life and your post really helped.. at least it made sense...
love n miss u
Yeah Man... I mean Woman.. things about suicide make me feel bad..
there is a frnd of mine.. infact one of my bestest ones.. his bro committed suicide just because his parents scolded him when he was getting late for the school.. I seriously feel bad for these cases..
And yeha.. we humans are lazy and deaf.. we need someone to be there for us..! aur jinka koi nahi hota unka khuda hota hai... (no pun intended :P )
Hearing about such incidents pains us so much. I can't imagine how bad it must be for the near and dear ones. Prayers with his family...
And...I always make it a point not to make anyone depressed in my hostel..Especially some 1st year kids. Just today, my friend told me, why did u bother so much with that 1st yr girl who was homesick and stuff. You never know, what might happen tomorrow right?
Smile for u and jhappi ke saath pappi free :) :* >:D<
Suicide!!!
Kya yaar? Aise Kaise you can disgrace your life?
Matlab LIFE is more than just Padai, Paisa or Anything..
Arrey hum zinda hain na buss kaafi hai..
No Marks-Shit gonna judge our Life's worth..
Agar aap thoda sa Be-Sharam ho jao na then Life Is more than Beautiful...
I remember my Mum once said ki "beta, falane bande ke bete ka naam merit me aaya hai.. n he got selected in IIT as well"
I simply replied "sachhi??? toh mummy fir aap use hi god lelo na.." :P
uske baad se aaj tak mummy ne kisi or bachhe ka example mere samne set ni kiya..
See i dun even knew who that Asshole was & i seriously dun care...all i knw is that he just can never be Me for my Family or my Friends... :)
& in that particular way i feel good...
P.S. Nice Post... If you keep blogging then one thing is for sure that none of your readers gonna commit suicide...
Suppose kisi ne marne ka program banaya bi toh marne se pehle sala ek baar to sochega ki yaar Bhagwan ke yahan Internet Connection milega ki nai.. ;-) Mil gaya toh theek or agar ni mila toh firse Dharti par avtaar lena padega(jst for your post)...
now itne faddon se acha hoga ki one will wait for your next post on Dharti only..
Keep Blogging...
Hi Harshita,
I always look forward to reading your post. As always this one too was upbeat and gung ho towards life. I think you are very right in saying that we should be compassionate and loving for ourselves and others in our faults and shortcomings and try to be less perfect and non judgemental.
Great post.
Nice post.
Reaching out is important..but to whom ? Most of these ppl who commit suicide..probabaly never speak of the chaos in their mind to anybody.
This post speaks to me, somehow. Thank you for writing this.
I loved this one Harshita..good one.
Take care
I remember there used to be quote at the bottom of your earlier blog that said
"Once you have reached rock bottom the only way to go is up."
Guess young people need to be told that more often.
personally i believe "There's no greater a teacher than failure."
Beautiful. :) You are so right. This is the first most postivit post I've read tonight.
Now this is so important, Hug therapy being a part of it :) which u are very gud at.
I am poor in telling people that they value a lot for me and things gonna be alryt ..but then coz Thatz how I am. But yeah i know it matters a lot ..to have someone around u to boost u up. I feel extremely sorry for those who commit suicide. Not coz they did it ..but coz they had to do it :(
nice post wid a very nice mssg :)
This makes total sense to me. And it is so really important for everyone of us to realize how important this life is. I've been through the difficult times, I did wanted to kill myself. But where am I going to be after death? Will my problems get fixed if I end my life? I deserve a chance to rediscover what I truly want. I know the value of life. I just know it!
The message you and the whole idea of passing it, is what really touched me.
I'm sorry about the boy. Its sad, but a naked truth.
@Mysterious Gal
You are such a sweetheart... :) It is always gr8 to knw people who are compassionate towards others... I am glad to have met you.
Thanks.
@paramveer
Yeah! all we need is that small word of encouragement.
@Nanhi Pari
Well I'll not debate on tht.. but for sure... we can stop ppl frm doing tht... :)
@Pallav
:) Well if it makes sense...be it.
@Aevi
You are the man!! No debates...Just that prayer. That's the best we can do.
@Hobo
:) Herez the hug!
@Arv
Yes. Our family prayed for them too... Wish the family gets the strength to go thru these tuff times.
@Thousif
Thanks for the kind words... but if I get the message across... thats all that matters.
@Mahesh
I will wait for that post to come up. Pleasure is all mine.
@The Geekie
I wud not term them as WEAK but yeah! there is something missing in there that LOVE fills. :) Hugs to u too... thanks.
@Skeeter
Thanks a lot... Take care..
@Apparently Intellectual
ah! :) You are awesome... just let that optimism come in thru the doors n windows.
@Raka
Switch on the light and smile... :)
@Abhinav
:) You rock with ur honesty...
@Pagli Mads
Haan... it is so nice of u to take care of her... :) stay the same.. that makes u who u r... a kind hearted angel.
@Arpit
haha.. u told ur mom THAT??
Thanks for the humorous and yet meaningful comment... makes me feel kinda special :)
@Sneha
Thanks... I know you are one of those kind lot of people...
@Sugar Cube
Well most of them give some kinda signals at some point of time... we just need to be there n read them out... and I am sure we can help then.
@Firebolt..
Does it?? thanks to you for inspiring me to stand up for who I am.
@Manish
Thanks
@Abhishek
Yes. I still believe in tht quote...coz it is apt and true.
Well I agree.. nothing like failing and fighting the failure.
@Zirelda
Thanks...
@Peter
Jhappi!!
oh! yes... but u can always tell ppl on n off that u care abt them..helps!
@Esther
You are a brave person and am so proud to know someone who chose Life over everything.. :) It indeed is a beautiful life... Stay happy...
:) Thanks for your kind words, here.
Hi:-)
Very touching post. In those difficult situations, normally the human tendency is to distance oneself from everything and when the distance becomes too much so that everything leaving behind seems to be blurred, that's when people commit suicide. So, i agree with you it is not fair to justify their act with rationale thoughts.
And because they already have distanced themselves too much, so when their near and dear ones try to reach there, they are not allowed inside and here only we commit the biggest mistake, we step back. In sipte of their resistance, we should try our best, walk a few extra steps with them, lend our shoulder for them to rest and hope one day it would work & It works!!!
Thanks for the post :-)
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