Raped...Molested...Harassed...Whoz that gal??
The more I think that I will stay away from writing, the more it pulls me towards itself. This time I had no plans to be back and blog abt anything but I HAD to. I had to on behalf of every gal I know and I don't know.
Something is disturbing me day in...day out. Every other blogger writes abt it and every other blogger comments about it but sadly, it never ceases to happen.. or shud I say there is a new victim every day...
The word in itself will bring horror to the minds of many readers (especially female readers)... RAPE is the dreaded word...
I dont intend to depress people but then I can't fake it... so my state of mind right now at 11:30 pm, is of disgust and frustration... I keep telling myself... No, its not going to happen to me.. and I KNOW that I am LYING to myself... It can happen to anyone.
Before the guys come out with all sorts of stuff like "Men are raped too" like Shiney Ahuja's wife is shouting off the rooftops these days... I wud say "Gimme a break guys... it is not as often as women"...But I do stand up for the fact that be it a man or a woman, Rape is a heinous crime.
Now I am not going to say things abt law and stuff here... coz everyone knws abt it here... we knw it is a crime...and blah blah...
What is the point in knowing it all when I can't do anything abt it?? If I step outside my house for work in my office's AC car, I dont think abt my future or probably something that makes me happy... instead I keep telling myself that I'll reach home safely at the end of the day. The situation is worsening especially in NCR and Delhi.
I don't trust the cops, neither the crowd nor the people who claim to be my frenz. Why should I trust either of them??
The crowd watched shamelessly when a gal gets slashed on her face by some men who try to molest her in the bus and no one even tried to help her. I ask such people "Abey! apney ghar jaakar apney zinda honey pe sharam aati hain ki nahi?? Mera Happy Singh bhi kisi ko musibat mein dekh key usey bachaaney ki koshish karta hain..."
I know, there is no use of saying anything to anyone...
Five cops raped a lonely woman on the pretext of questioning her. What the hell? Who wud trust the cops? Who trusts them anyways?? I feel scared of the men in khakhi since the time I was a kid coz I saw them assualting a woman in full public view in UP. :(
Friends are turning into rapists... I think people are just getting worst day by day.. the limits to insanity are being crossed every moment...
Rape is not only a crime, it is a psychological torture you put the other person thru for life. Kya bolun main? I donno... Kuch samajh nahi aata... koi kis ko takleef dekar... kaisey khush ho sakta hain...
I have come across people, who very proudly say "Abey yaar, main toh trade fair isliye jaata hun... ki bheed mein 2-4 ladkiyon pe toh haath maarney ko mil hi jaata hain"... You might be thinking "Ladki hain, kaisey likh rahi hain"... Sach bolun... Mainu koi farak nahi painda... I dont care even if I shoo some of you away with this avatar of mine... but I really want to make a point here...
I, the woman, am done with it...
When I step out to have my say in processions, the cops manhandle me and put their hands inside my clothes when they abuse me and push me in the crowd. When I step out to attend my tutions, some rich-guys push me in their cars and rape me. When I step outside to go to work so I can earn for my living and my family, I get raped in the name of job interviews. When I step outside to breathe in the air that know no distinction between a man and a woman, I get molested and fondled my men on bikes. When I step outside to make my dreams come true, I am harassed sexually in the name of opportunity. The man I trust the most, gets his friends along and rapes me. The man I consider my idol while I am growing up, rapes me and does not hesitate even once coz of the father-daughter bond we share.
I was also tormented a lot during my teens when I used to travel in buses and walk on roads for my college, tutions and stuff...But one fine day, all the patience and tolerance gave way to REVENGE and AGONY... I gave it back to the people who harassed me... but this was of no use... they did not trouble me anymore... but they did not stop troubling the others... :(
I think every man who tries to cross boundaries with a woman shud remember one thing... that there is always a day when even the most scared soul wud break her tolerance point and THAT day will for sure be the LAST day of this man's happy life... Kehtey hain naa... The more you suppress someone, the stronger they come back to you and avenge themselves.
I know ME and YOU can't do much abt it. But atleast, we can start somewhere. I know agar college mein ek gang ho and the one of the guys is passing lewd comments for a gal... no one wud object... and the one who does... gets it back in the form of "Saaley! teri behan hain kya?" " Kyon bey bahut bura lag raha hain?" "Teri line hain kya?"... Par yaaron dont give up... if you feel that something is wrong, Stand up for it!! It really does make a difference.
I know koi kisi ke pachdey mein nahi padna chaahta aajkal... par do remember... kal jab khud musibat mein hogey naa... then you will realise the importance of it.
Gals!! Tolerate mat karo yaar... Stand up for urself no matter who that person is, whoz troubling you... You need to start fighting for yourself.
Guys!! Soch key dekhney ka... kisi ki life ki baat hain... if you find a gal in trouble, getting teased and harassed... HELP HER yaar... else kya karogey... bas hero banogey kya branded kapdey pehan key yaar....
Be safe and take care... and if any of you felt offended by the post... get yourself an appointment with a Counsellor... Sochna iss baarey mein zarur... kya pata... aapki help se... kisi ki life bach jaaye... hain ki nahi... Chalo yaaron... khayaal rakhna!!
