What's your choice?
Life is all about the choices we make. Sometimes the choice is between the people we love and our dreams. Sometimes the choice is between the health of a loved one and our work commitments.
Struggling to balance both. Sometimes we falter, Sometimes we succeed. Standing at the crossroads, wondering which way to take.
My people (the ones I love) are more important than my work and dreams. I let my heart rule my head and most of the times I am glad I do that...when it is for the right people.But I do feel sad when I see others ignoring their people just for the sake of making a little more money or getting another promotion.
Everyone is entitled to live 'their' life. But if our earlier generations thought more about themselves, and lesser about us...we would have been a worse lot, probably a little more ruined in terms of values and life.
What would you choose? Your dreams or The ones you love? Is a dream bigger than the people who stood by you when no-one did?
It is like you are pulled in opposite directions...Head says yay! Heart says nay!
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Flush of thoughts - 11.12.2011 - You need me?
Sometimes we start defining ourselves on the basis of how much others need us. THAT is one mistake I end up committing quiet a few times. I think it is kind of a cycle, you flatter yourself thinking that YOU are the one who is responsible for solving everyone's problems and take up all their issues as your own, you do your job and then you get used to being needed by them...and when people no more need you, you feel lost.
I guess I have this keeda in me coz I have been the eldest of the lot always...and I jump at every opportunity to 'help' people. I have suffered enough coz of that, but still can't understand THIS side of me (of course there are too many other things I have no clue abt when it comes to me, but this is one of those many many things).
Does it happen to you? Do you feel responsible for other people in your life? Do you start defining yourself on the basis of how much the other person needs your help? It is weird, but 'responsibility ruins you' at times!!
I did not notice this, until someone else pointed it out for me...Initially I kept ignoring this..but it is funny how in this whole 'Let's help others' thing, I forgot that 'I' define me, the degree of being needed by others, does not.
Aaaaaaaaaaaaing!! :P
Khair! Mast raho, Dilchasp raho ;)
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Flush of thoughts - 07.12.2011
Sometimes while I am too busy contemplating about life (Knowing me, you would know THAT is my favorite pastime -- > THINKING!! :P), I wonder how at times I am too rigid with some people and too flexible with some. Some people I would never forgive...and some I would just forgive in a second for biggest of mistakes.
I think it is more to do with expectations. There are people we open our souls to, and when they turn their backs, we suffer from a major letdown and there is no room for forgiveness or going back to how it was. On the flip side, there are some people we have zero expectations from and when they disappoint us, it is so irrelevant that it goes un-noticed.
Ofcourse, I detest this whole business of "Don't expect"... coz humans are designed the way they are. Those who say they never expect from the people they are close to, are lying (to others or to themselves). There is always some corner of your heart that expects...
I think it may be quiet generic if we look closer. The deepest scars are caused by the people we are closest to...Isn't it? Although, I wish for more tolerance and patience to forgive and forget, coz at the end of it all, it only sets one free.
Mast raho, Dilchasp raho!! ;)
Note : I have planned to write under this title when my post is just about thoughts in my head.
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What a Dirty picture!!
Like most of us, I was not aware of Silk too much until the "Dirty Picture" talk happened and I was not aware of the extent of a certain Ms. Balan's conviction even...
I am a Vidya Balan fan... more so coz I have always been on the underdog's side . That is just me. I found her sultry even in Parineeta, the innocence and raw sex appeal is so evident when she "marries" Saif in the movie.
She has been written off so many times, because she could not give them enough 'glamor' and could not promote international designers on the red carpet like other current heroines (I won't bother calling them actors, coz most of them are not). But she stood her ground and brought the curvy Indian woman back to Hindi movies.
She was oozing sensuality in "Ishqiya" sans make-up, wearing seedha-pallus all through the movies. She is one of those very few women, who don't need to have washboard abs to be accepted by the masses.
and.. who would have the guts to show-off a paunch so uninhibitedly .. I think no Kareena Kapoor or Deepika would do it, for that matter... Being a woman, and important to mention here : a heterosexual woman :P , I was so proud of the way she gave her all to this movie. Her in-ur face brutal honesty as an actress is beyond words in this movie.
This movie introduced us to a super-confident and comfortable-in-her-own-skin Vidya...Also, the most amazing part of the movie is when Silk decides to end her life... you don't feel sorry for her then... coz you know that her silence is screaming it aloud "Dear world, you don't deserve me anymore. Hence, I devoid you of my charisma, my beauty and my zeal to live. I am not dying, I am snatching myself away from you"
Thank you, Vidya Balan.. for bringing the Indian woman and most importantly Silk back...in our movies, in our lives :)
I recommend this movie for every woman...you will feel more proud and beautiful about being a woman. It is no way derogatory to any woman, it just shows the fearless and reckless spirit of a woman who went against all odds to claim what was hers...while people were busy pulling her down.
Mast Raho, Dilchasp Raho!
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Happiness = 'Pick and Choose'
Yep! that's true. We have tonnes of happiness around us. It is like that "Pick and Choose" thing we did in school, you choose what you want to, from this basket of life. Sounds crazy?? Think about it.
Sometimes I feel we are all selling ourselves to an audience. Of course, we all have a not-so-happening life, a bag full of sad
stories and some interesting set of people to hear us share our agony.
A couple of months back while I was comfortably rowing my 'boat of sadness', I had that sudden moment of realization. What did I become? I looked at happy people around me and started envying them secretly. I started thinking "Wow! so everyone has an awesome life except me. She is getting married. He got a promotion. Blah! Blah! has all the happiness". It feels so stupid right now.
A friend-turned-foe-turned-friend once told me "When you stop taking charge of your life, God hits you so hard that you have no choice but to TAKE CHARGE and fix it". She always said "Don't wait for that moment. It will get nasty by then. Fix it NOW" and I waited... I never seem to listen to people, though I THINK I listen to them.What I learnt in past 28 years of my life is : unless YOU want to do something about your present, no amount of pursuing is going to help.
If we look closer, nothing is amiss. Why do we want to be happy ONLY about things in our lives? I mean, why can't we be happy coz let's say one of our friends got a promotion, someone we adore is going the family way or just coz our loved ones are happy. I donno when "happiness" turned into this selfish bitch. Why are we so stuck up on MY happiness, MY smile, MY promotion, MY love-life, MY kids? Last I heard, happiness was meant to be shared. Well, *shrugs* guess the world has changed.
That makes me wonder, if my mom thought about HER happiness, I would not have been here. Of course, that would have been good for some of you people in my life, for whom I am nothing but TROUBLE ;)... but again, I think we made happiness and sadness too important and selfish in this whole process of growing up.
Your best friend is pregnant? be happy.. what if, you are still fighting
out with your husband ;) Your sibling graduated? be happy.. what if, you are
still struggling at your job... It rained? be happy... what if u forgot
your umbrella at home.. It is just about what you "Pick and Choose", in theory and in practice.
I am not countering the "Happiness is inside you" thing, but all that I am saying is you gotta choose. That's it. Be it a relationship or a job, don't overlook the happy stuff for the sad one. Coz, what makes life wonderful is the fact that it is NOT perfect.
Mast raho, Dilchasp raho!
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