Honesty is NOT the best policy...

You know, today I was just sitting and watching the kids play outside and I realized that the reason life is easier as a kid is coz you are born without any filters. You speak your mind and nobody really judges you. But then all these older people come in and they start teaching you --"Beta, don't say this...don't say that" I know! I know! all they want is for us to know is that sometimes we should not say a couple of things to avoid hurting other people, but then isn't that being dishonest.


I mean I myself walk on a very thin line when it comes to such stuff. I am a really sensitive person so I do understand that I have to think a 100 times to say something unpleasant to someone, so I would try to make it seem like a concern or a compliment or probably sugar-coat it a bit. But with people I really really care about, I just walk up to them and I am really blunt..It's like "Hello!! why are you wearing that brown lipstick,Ewwwwwww?" or "Hey! I think that guy is using you for money"..

Trust me, I never gained anything out of being honest and blunt & neither did I by being polite and sensitive. It's like people are stupid. They want you to be honest, but at their convenience. They want you to be sensitive but then they want you to speak the truth coz you know, "You are my friend" or "you are my family".

I am one of those stupid people myself. I just can't find a balance between honesty and being sensitive. And I know my husband is always at the receiving end coz of that. You can't choose one, it's a lot to do with timing I think.

All in all, in today's world, people do not appreciate honesty much. It's like "You know HKM, man!! she is crazy weird man!! she is just too honest man! not for this world..not for this world".. hahahahahaha..

But then, I like being weird..that's just me. I am this whole package and I am not for everyone. If you have me for a friend or for family, trust me to hold you back when I know you are jumping in a well or to slap you hard out of a stupid decision. Oops!! just metaphorically...

Like right now I wanna be really honest towards whoever is reading this. Guys!! you remember people who bullied you in school and college..or probably did not even know that you existed..?? Do you? and now how they want to be your bestest friends on every social media network. I am like what the hell, I know how evil you are..and have been and that's never gonna change... so why bother?

Also, people with no sense of humor, please steer clear of my blog..friends with me or not friends with me.

I am too old to bother with the justification shit..read it at your own risk...and if you get offended, please don't bother me with it...

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Yeh jo desh hain mera...

I know most of the people look at such blog titles and yawn to themselves -- One more patriot, One more post full of whining about how our country is going to the dogs, One more yap-yap..yap-yap...

I think what I am going to say here is more of a concern than a rant. I don't know who can fix it.. me? you? the government? the people of the country? or God?

I sit back in the AC cubicle in my Client office and as I read through the news items, I wonder how the poor is getting poorer and the rich is getting richer. How I strive to earn more so I can buy a better brand, afford a better house and a better life..while there are people in some place in my country who don't even have ek-waqt-ka-khaana.

How I so easily make a face to my over-cooked Cilantro pasta in a hotel and leave some on the plate...While there are thousands who would lick that plate dry coz they have not seen food for days, IN MY COUNTRY.

When you start thinking or reading or writing about such stuff, you feel so depressed about the whole thing.. but then this is how it is and I cannot make any tall claims that "Oh! I am so awesome that I will leave my comfortable cubicle and walk miles to help these people". I know right now, I won't.

"I can't" is not an option coz if I am ready to renounce my comfort, I can do anything.

I just sit back here, like a hypocrite, sipping on my green tea and using the latest technology and social media to voice my "oh-so-sympathetic-views".

Man! that sucks.. I mean becoming this person.On days like these, I hate myself..I hate the fact that I am not doing enough for anyone anymore.

I had dreams of changing the face of the country and doing things for people, when I was in school, in college.. and then I got addicted to this life that I live and forgot all of them??

I donno if people who are reading it are awesome or just like me..

But I think, just sending a donation every alternate month through some online service to these people, is not going to help them. Things have to be fixed, at the root-level. HOW? I donno.. right now, I don't.

Just that WE, as people and as a country need help.

I don't think the time is to stay mast and dilchasp... this is probably the time to take charge as a citizen and as a human being to at least create some difference. Coz my success is meaningless as a citizen, if the people in my country are killing themselves over poverty and starving to death.

Depress mat hona padke. Padna.. Sochna.. Bhool Jaana. Bharat Maata ki Jai!!

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About scars, professionalism and blah blah...

The bandage came off today and let me tell you, there are some very gross marks on the hand, that are going to stay for some time, the wound is still there but it is no longer an open wound. I hope though, there are no scars left behind.

During this whole month, I came across different reactions to my accident. Some were heart-warming and some were completely shocking. I concluded people are not at all sensitive to someone's suffering, and not to the 'marks' when it comes to a woman.

Anyways.

I have started traveling for work again and it is difficult you know, to carry luggage with just one hand or even to manage "NOT TO" hurt myself in the public places. Simple tasks such as picking up the dinner plate all by myself are a pain with only my left hand at work.

This whole accident also made me see how people are not sensitive even on professional front. If you won't do it, someone else will - that is the mantra everyone follows.

It is sad that in the race of earning more revenues and all, we end up being insensitive to the people who are responsible for the growth of our business.

No calls from work at all, to ask if I am alive or not.

Worst of all is, people from work who pretended to be considerate otherwise, turned their backs. That is ridiculous, coz it is professional courtesy to call up people you work with.Isn't it? I am highly disappointed with it and let me tell you such an attitude has only one repercussion, the people who passionately worked for the business, take a step back and just do what is required and stop going that extra mile.

I think when someone says there are "Professional", they should really understand what that means, being ruthless or cold is not professional.

I donno how do we categorize such people.. but the whole point is, if a business does not respect the people that helps it in its growth, it cannot survive for long.

That is just my opinion though. I believe in that. 

Baaki Chennai is too much of "Ghich Ghich Chip Chip"...but I live next to a beach and trust me, after all the shit I have been through in past one month, this one is a nice break where I have just me for company, I talk to the sea, the birds and sometimes to the beautiful starry sky..

Thank you, God. I needed this, may be. Although, I still miss my friends and wonder if they miss me too :)

Mast raho, Dilchasp raho!!

 

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They told me so...

It is said that people we meet all through our lives, make us the people we become. Today, I plan to blog about a couple of things that were shared with me, by the people I value... at different junctures of my life.

- "Logon ka achcha kiya yaad rakhkho, bura bhool jaao, jeevan sulajh jaayega" - "Always remember the 'good' someone has done to you and forget the 'bad', this would make your life simpler --- Dad

- "Ek chup, sau sukh" - You don't need to respond to every argument or statement. Silence brings along serenity & happiness -- Mom

- "Ati ka bhalaa na bolna, Ati ki bhali naa chup" - "It is not wise to talk too much, or even to stay silent for long. One should balance it well" -- My grandma

- "God always provide you with the much-needed jolt, if he sees you stuck in the dumps for long. You have to make a choice, either STAY in dumps and wait for the jolt, or Take a step forward and get out it" -- My ex-room-mate and friend.

- "Everything in life can be categorized under "Assets" and "Liabilities" -- A friend and guide.

- "There should be only one priority in your life. You" -- My best friend.

- "Never take undue advantage of people. That's just inhuman" -- Dad

- "Love, because it is important to know to 'give without expecting much in return' in life" -- Mom

- "The best way to end an argument is to ask yourself if the relationship is important for you or winning the argument" -- Mom

- "There is one person you can always believe in, You" -- Mom

- "Everybody leaves" -- A man I loved.

- "If it does not make you happy, it is not worth it" -- Friend.

- "Love madly, deeply and unconditionally. That makes you human. No matter how much it hurts" -- A man who loved me.

- "If they don't love you, let go" -- A friend who loved me.

- "A man who would not acknowledge his love for you, is not worth your time" -- A gal friend.

- "Marriage does not need too much work, if you have Love by your side" -- Mom

Will keep sharing some more of these.. tab tak, 

Mast Raho, Dilchasp Raho!!

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An ode to the Educated Illiterates (EIs) - Zara hat ke!

Off late my experiences with the so-called 'educated' section of our society have been so disappointing that I am sure that instead of working towards starting a NGO to help the under-privileged, I should start one to educate the EDUCATED or the privileged ones.

I am writing my MBA papers and this weekend while I was waiting in a queue at my examination center for my turn, a gal in her early-20s came from somewhere behind and stood next to me in the queue. I usually ignore such stupid tactics by the so called EIs (Educated Illiterates), but Delhi summers get to you, can't help. As soon as my turn came, she forwarded her hall-ticket to the Exam head, I casually picked up that piece of paper, smiled at her and said,"Can you please tell me one good reason why you forwarded your hall-ticket when it is my turn?". She looked at me in disbelief, with that titli-types attitude. Kids!! 

The point of narrating this whole incident is that she was just one of those EIs. We have so many around us all the time, who don't care about what they have been taught all their lives in the posh schools they studied at. Education is supposed to be a powerful tool to be a responsible citizen and a human being, but it is sad that people take it for granted. 

So I hereby, I give a tribute to all those EIs I have encountered recently :

1. The Mobile Phone leechs : I understand your life sucks and all, and you wanna die...but please spare the other people who are walking or driving on the roads. If you can't let go of your cellphone while you are driving, stay at home or hire someone to drive you around as you yap yap on the phone.

2. The "Yeh sadak tere baap ki hain kya?" spitters : They don't need a reason or a season. Be it a BMW or a Nano, Be it a corporate honcho or a sarkari daftar ka clerk, everyone competes on the road, for the longest range of spitting. If you ever look at them with disgust or tell them it's wrong, they will set you right.

3. The "Tujhey pata hain main kaun hoon?" rulebreakers : So the netas, the middle class and the upper class, everyone wants their kids to study in the best of international schools...but the end result is always the same. This category suffers from an identity crisis despite all the education and facilities in life. They live "questionable" lives...coz inhe pata nahi ki yeh kaun hain ;)

4. The "Yeh ladizz ki line hain" aunties and kudis : Just for record, there is no ladizz ki line anywhere anymore. The last I heard Indian Railways reservation counters also abolished them in most of the places. These kudis/aunties form a ladizz ki line everywhere, coz 1. they are educated 2. they KNOW the rules.

5. The "Budhdhe marega kya?"yo-yo generation : When I was in school, we were taught that one should respect elders, and trust their judgement in life. What we see on the roads, in public places, in homes is completely opposite these days. This category of EIs, need a "Buddha hoga tera baap" dose from our awesome grandpas and uncles. They donno that desi ghee ke paranthe still have an edge over Burgers :P

6. The Over-smart queue breakers : No matter how long the queue is, these people always have the audacity to walk up to the front and pretend like they belong their for the past 4 hours. Jai ho!

The whole point is... There are many kids who crave for books and studies, but they have to work at the age of 7 itself to earn for their family and here, we have kids who travel in AC cars and udaaofy maa-baap ka paisa but don't realize the importance of what they have. 

If this is what our kids are doing after education, it is better to give a chance to the people who really value education, the kids who want, but can't get.

I am sure all of you have met some or the other kind of EIs in your lives. Feel free to add your experiences and categories in comments. 

Note : AD gave me this idea of starting an NGO when I was rambling about this wonderful queue-breaker Chikita!

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