Are you ahem!... virgin?

This question looms over all relationships and even the prospective marriages. Thankfully, no prospective groom asked me something like this ever, else those who know me, would know uska kya hota ;) But yes, My friends have been asked such questions by their prospective grooms :D

So, everyone has opinions about it. I also have one... which is that I don't have any prerequisites as such. It depends on an individual how they want to look at it. I have no such expectations from my partner that they should not have done 'IT' before with someone. I mean *shrugs* , I take this to be just usual stuff.

And this guy-friend (he is not DOST) I talked to today said that his friend (a gal) once told him that she is keeping her virginity intact as a gift for her husband. Ahem! sorry but that sounds lame to me. If I have not done IT, it is not coz I am keen on gift wrapping myself for someone I am marrying. LOL. It is coz I just don't want to go all the way.

But I see there is so much hue and cry over this even when a Tamil Superstar advocated pre-marital sex. I don't think there is anything wrong with this.

I have met many guy friends (and Dost, it is not about you before you frown at me), who no matter how many times they have done it, expect their would-be to be Mineral-water ki tarah pavitra (ahem!Ganga maiya is a lil polluted aajkal-- am not an atheist).

Such people amaze me with their double standards on something like this. If you have already done IT, how can you expect something else from your partner. *shrugs*

Another thing is that pre-marital sex does not make you a philanderer(here used in unisex context). It is just a choice you make and it is individualistic. Trust and Virginity are different things. We should not mix them ever, else life becomes too heavy to bear with.

What do you guys think about it? What is your take on it?

Note : Dost, again. It is not about what me and you talked. But you gave me a good reason to talk about it here.