A Resolution For Life

There are times I wonder if itz me or the people around me. I have this trigger and you pull it and I am a bad bad person or as Anurag mentioned once,"I am a reactive person". I tend to react to things in a certain way, I am not the one to shut my mouth when I think something wrong is being said or done. But then,we all have our wrongs and rights. What I think is a RIGHT, may be a WRONG to someone else. To understand this in practical sense at THAT particular moment, is a tough task...atleast for me, it is. There is this one thing I would want to change about myself, but I hardly can. I want not to react, not to take someonez side in a conversation, not to present my point of view until asked for, not to justify and to judge the right and wrong for someone else. I know I have a difficult task at hand here but for my peace of mind, I need to work on it. I practised something for few days that helped me to an extent : Wait for 10 minutes before you react, anything happy,sad or angry, but wait before you react. It sobers you down and you do the RIGHT thing. I noticed one disadvantage but. Although I followed restraint, deep down I would get pissed and irritated with the situation and it will affect me in a more nasty manner. I would feel all bottled up. I think the perfect solution for such a situation wud be if I could not react in a certain immediate manner and also keep the negatives away from me. You may term it is a NEW YEAR RESOLUTION or what, but I need to stop being reactive coz I see it is more destructive than constructive. I am a happy person otherwise but THIS part of my attitude wastes my positive energy and I don't want to lose on the precious time and energy of my life. I am not looking for advice here. I know I mention it all the time.But then, if there is a practical way to deal with it, I would like to know it. Else, the statements like 'Take it easy' and 'All will be well' are a part of my life too, don't give anymore of them to me. :) When I used to bottle it up, it affected my health and now when I react, it does affect me. Are we all the same when it comes to reacting to something we think is wrong? Do we all stand up for our rights? Is it at the end of the day RIGHT to stand up for it, when all you get at the end of the day is stress? I love to live my life with smiles,happiness and loads of fun like everyone else does. So, I am gonna work towards just THIS aspect of my attitude this coming year so I am a better person than who I am today. I cannot change what's around me, so I will try changing what's inside me. This Punjabi streak in me, makes me more prone to losing my temper but I will fix it for sure. Not that I will stop taking a stand but then, I should make it subtle rather than aggressive. This is my Resolution for myself and for the people who love me. :) Here is my favourite quote from How I met your mother : You think you have only two choices when you are angry : Give it back to the person OR Swallow your anger... but therez a third choice.. LET IT GO...and when you do that ..then its really gone and you move on!!!

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