Emotional Adultery
The other day Me and Phoenix were discussing Emotional Adultery and it made me write this post today.
I was not aware of the term 'Emotional Adultery' until I read about it in the newspaper columns. It attracted my attention and I started relating the concept to real-life and found out that the consequences and causes are so true.
Herez what I understood of it :
I found out that under Christianity, Adultery of mind is treated same as commiting a sin and the term 'emotional adultery' was coined. In a routine life, we end up meeting people we can confide more than we do in our spouse or partners and there gets built an emotional connection. You end up sharing each and everything about your day, your life, your happiness and your sadness with someone other than you partner only at an emotional level.
It is pretty prevelant in today's times, when both the partners are busy with their careers and life. They hardly spend quality time with each other and somewhere the emotional connection gets hampered and one day they meet someone at workplace, yoga class or even at a party with whom you can connect... as you see more of them as compared to your partner.
Unknowingly you commit what is called as emotional adultery when you share every single thing about your life with some-one of the opposite sex whoz not your partner in the same manner you did share with your partner. I wonder, sometimes we end up commiting the same unknowingly.
We all do have frenz we confide in more than we do in our partners and to an extent it is a well-accepted concept but when it turns into a bane for your relationship with your partner, it is the time to save your relationship and happiness.
I have come across people in my life many a time who ended up sharing more with their friends as compared to their respective partners and later this caused trouble in their marriages. :(
I am not yet married, not in a relationship to comment on it...but this is something that attracted my attention and I thought of sharing it with all of you.
What do you think about Emotional Adultery? DO you think there is something like it in this world?
10 comments:
I think there is. But I don't know that it consists of sharing more with a friend than with your spouse.
There are some things best kept from a relationship but that need to get out of your head.
That's my take anyway.
i agree that there is something called emotional adultery and like it said its as big a sin as adultery but somewhere i also believe that there is a thin line between sharing with your friend and not with your husband/bf and emotional adultery...
there maybe things im more comfy talking to my friend..than with my other...
however i abhor those who mentally stray, and seek comfort in thoughts of someone else.....
mm human being r like tht only. if they dont get attention from someone they look for other.. so its very natural tht if the partners arent sharing much time with each other, they look for fren to share feeling and i feel there is nothing wrong on it. But it good trying not to skip any attempt to wrk out in communication gap.
if we start giving time to others, we attempt to neg late our partners, our own meaningful relationships..
I dont think anything should be beyond sharing with your partner first...
take care mate... cheers...
Yes, absolutely. It happens when one person doesn't physically cheat on the other, but spends their time and attention on someone else. it is cheating between the ears rather than between the sheets. See it all the time dear.
Skeeter
ppl take use of emotional adultery and its best to stay away from it...
निगाह-ऐ-मस्त-ऐ-साकी का सलाम आया तो क्या होगा?
हरमवाले जो पूछेंगे बता तू किसका बन्दा है?
खुदा से पहले लब पे उनका नाम आया तो क्या होगा?
Emotional Adultery...ha ha ha
Yeah Z, I agree with it to an extent but I myself wonder where does one draw the line?
True Phoenix, The line wat we need not cross.
Communication indeed is an imptt part of a relationship, Niddzzi. :)
Arv, I think there are few things you can't share with ur partner, may be coz u dont wanna burden them or hurt them...may be.
Skeeter, you are right there on this.I have seen it a couple of times too.
Buzz, it is better to stay away but it hard to...coz we donno whr to stop at time...dont we?
Girijesh, sher achcha tha... aur sense of humor bhi :)
hey harshu - as u said --- coz we donno whr to stop at time.-- i think this is so true..
tht line speaks a lot
'Emotional Adultery' hahahaha its all bullshit. i think there is nothing like that anywhere.
books do not preach right all the time... tell a partner about past encounters would be a right thing as per books but could lead in a mess a relationship and just in order to save it if we keep it to ourselves is absolutely right.
what matters more is not to lie but hiding and keeping things to one's ownself or sharing with someone with whom the relationship is not at stake is not a problem
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