Mom meets Maamu

It took me 4 hours to fix the issues with my blog today...First, the 'recent comments' widget stopped working and laters I had to revamp the whole blog(login,name,link etc.) coz of a simple reason that I cannot stop selective troublemakers from visiting my blog so I had to find a temporary solution. Good thing is Mom is back and she is really happy coz she met her brother and his family after almost a span of 11 yrs. I can see it in her eyes and body language.Itz as if she is smiling even when she is asleep. ;) The only time she does that is when Dad is back from his tours...lol...The madly in love couple they are...but this time the reason was someting different...no matter wat the reason is... love to see her happy like all kids do. It tuk her 11 yrs to smile like that...11 yrs is a long time...really long time...

11yrs back, when her brother(my maamu) shifted base to Mumbai with his family and all we had for our maternal family was my Nanaji(mom's dad). They say, "Distance makes the heart go fonder", I feel itz not like that. Communication is an imprtant part of a realtionship and distance is the biggest enemy of communication. Mom and Maamu chatted intially when he left Delhi, but after a few months, happened the old cliche stuff. Misunderstandings cropped up coz of other people in their family and they(mom and maamu) never bothered to clarify,thinking the other will understand.And one fine day, they stopped communicating. But no hard feelings.

I have seen mom craving for her brother's affection every year when we celebrated Raksha Bandhan and Bhai Dooj.I could see her smiling thru tears if someone caught her sitting alone. Mom being the eldest amongst the 4 kids, is a perfect mother-figure to all her siblings. I sometimes wonder, how does she manage to be so patient and understanding towards people and especially towards her relatives(some of the youger lot is creepy)! But Mom has always been like that..The other person who is quiet like her in her family is her brother. He has always been really calm and loving, though less expressive. Maybe, this is one of the reason they gel well.

When Mom celebrated her 25th Wedding Anniversary, we all knew she wanted her brother to be next to her...so we asked her to go ahead and call him...He cud not make it but did send his good wishes...I know Mom so badly wanted him to be there...She told me she knew itz all about reaching out to him.

I love Mom's philosophy of life: She says,"Life is too short to waste in regrets and grudges.We shud make the best of it and reach out to the people we love coz no one hates to be loved ". All other siblings in her family were not too happy for Mom called Maamu and finally one day, she told us that she wanted to celebrate her Raksha Bandhan (this year)with Maamu by her side.

And when she decided, who cud stop her. :) Dad is super-cool, he asked Mom to go ahead and got her tickets booked. She had some reservations about seeing her brother after so long but all went BOOM when she met him. They had a blast in Mumbai and Mom got wat she always deserved and needed.She had a gala time with Maamu,Maami and Abhi at their place and I have never seen her so happy for past few years..

I wish what if both of them wud not have waited for so long to reach out and let each other know how special they are to each other. Why do people stop communicating? Mom always thought abt him but somewhere deep down suppressed it for the sake of her dad and youngest sister as they were not too happy abt keeping in touch with Maamu. And Mom always try to keep everyone happy(See! I told you, itz in my genes...lol)

Relationships are meant to be nurtured and cherished but people end up complicating them. I am glad Mom did what she felt was right for her and I am sure she did the right thing. She deserves her share of love and support too.

Now she keeps showing me what all her brother gifted her and talks about what all his wife(my maami) has achieved...Mom is so proud of all three of them in the family....and the best part is she is happy and as I write about it I can see those sparkling eyes looking at me from the kitchen now. :)

Mom had the love of her life around and ofcourse her kids but some relationships have their very own importance.

Thanks to Maamu ,Maami and Abhi for making my Mom feel loved again... :)