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My mom has a personal beautician who comes over at our place once a month(at times twice/thrice too) and caters to mom's beauty regime...I am a lil scared of the beauty enhancing products and people...so I usually avoid them...I wud only visit a parlor to get some waxing or threading done...or yeah! may be an ocassional Hair-cut....I cant bear all those white,orange,yellow,blue n wat not stuff on my face... Mom has a beautician named Sunita for 7 years and she was separated from her husband(not legally) and had a daughter....She was one person who inspired me a lot...she started her career when she was 33 and well eversince then, there is no looking back....She is a gr8 woman and the first person who made me get over my fear of waxing my legs...(my legs got terrible blisters during a wax session in a high-profile spa cum beauty centre n I told myself I wud never do it again...and the high-profile thing was such a deception...I thought it wud be better and safe for the skin...huh!)... Sunita was going thru the worst in her personal life....she had a daughter, she did not know how long she wud be able to raise...(ofcourse money is imptt)....and her husband was over-possesive and used to physically and mentally abuse her....She stood tall against all that and left his home along with her daughter few years back.... and then she enrolled for a course in beauty and ayurvedic therapy... Last year, when I was busy travelling for work, Mom called me and told me that Sunita had reconciled with her husband....She cud no longer stand the trauma our society gave her and instead she preferred to bear with a man who wud harass her...I donno how is she? She never called us again...and her number does not work...I really really hope she is fine...Her daughter is a sweet kid with loads of dreams in her eyes... Eversince Sunita left, Mom was hunting for a replacement(but no one can replace her, she is really superb at her job)...finally she zeroed down on a female in her early thirties...She is a Jat and the first time I met her, I was so taken aback with her accent and aggression...(not her fault)... I always thought she is one bold kick-ass woman...I never approached her for myself, so she was solely for mom,until today, when I thought I wud just get a eyebrow threading done as I was feeling too lazy to go the nearby beauty centre... She greeted me with a pretty but half-black smile...I was like what happened to her...and she said," Oh! I fell off my bike.". Well, another case of domestic violence...!! Her fone was ringing for about an hour and she did not take the call. Finally Mom asked her to take the call first and resume her job a lil later...Well, she asked the guy at the other end if he w-ud ever hit her again....I was like shocked....and then she told me that my husband punched me hard in the face Gudiya...and thats why my lips are swollen and the left eye is black...ah! bloody husband....am sorry for offensive words...but I simply cud not help myself... :( I felt so choked and uncomfortable....coz she smiled thru the whole tale-telling process....I cud now recollect the last time I saw her...She had a swollen right cheek and she said she had a jaw problem...I m sure he did hit her that time too....Poor thing!! and I thought she was aggressive and she cud stand up for herself... She told me why she is in this marriage for her daughter and coz she has no courage to put her parents in trouble...She asked me to never let her folks know that she was being abused.... The ME that I am, I told her how cud she even take it? But then sooner I realised, in one or the other way she had no choice....Our Indian Society leaves us with nothing :( In the time when we talk about Nuclear Agreements, Globalization, Liberalisation and all that crap, we have people who take out processions in protest of a knee-length dress worn at a party by a movie-star...Gimme a break!! I know I will not be able to sleep well tonite...coz I am gonna think abt this woman and all others who have been going thru this silently....and someday they will give their lives away in silence...and no one wud know... While I was working for AIDS awareness I came across women who wud talk about their helplessness towards protecting themselves against this deadly disease. They have no choice to decide when, how and what. I was working with the sweepers,security office and office peons for that session, all women. I kept on telling them they shud do this and tht to protect themselves, when suddenly one of themvery calmly raised her hand and said," Madam ji, aap jo bhi bataa rahey ho, usmey humaara koi marzi nahi chalta" : "We have no say in protecting ourselves against AIDS during sex". Another shocking thing! I cud not sleep that night and was wondering how blessed I am that I have parents and people around me who let me decide for my life. I really am... I will be writing more about my experience during one of these sessions and also the most shocking thing is 85% of my co-workers believed that AIDS is caused even when you share food and water with an infected person...This is something we will talk about laters...For now, I want to say one thing : A man shud treat his wife/lover/galfren with the same respect, love, care, space, individuality and attention that they demand from them. Women are not meant to be beaten up or abused...they are beautiful creations of god ( I m not game for physical beauty here just to mention)...and theyshud be loved and cared for, the way they do for everyone around them... We should put a stop to domestic violence or for that matter any kind of violence against women... Your wife is an equal human being and she deserves a lot from life and you... Please stop hitting women....they are not meant to bear the brunt of your anger. P.S. I could not decide for an apt title for the post. Grammatical mistakes shud be forgiven for the emotional state I am in.