Once a saint, Now a sinner: 2012

Yeh jo desh hain mera...

I know most of the people look at such blog titles and yawn to themselves -- One more patriot, One more post full of whining about how our country is going to the dogs, One more yap-yap..yap-yap...

I think what I am going to say here is more of a concern than a rant. I don't know who can fix it.. me? you? the government? the people of the country? or God?

I sit back in the AC cubicle in my Client office and as I read through the news items, I wonder how the poor is getting poorer and the rich is getting richer. How I strive to earn more so I can buy a better brand, afford a better house and a better life..while there are people in some place in my country who don't even have ek-waqt-ka-khaana.

How I so easily make a face to my over-cooked Cilantro pasta in a hotel and leave some on the plate...While there are thousands who would lick that plate dry coz they have not seen food for days, IN MY COUNTRY.

When you start thinking or reading or writing about such stuff, you feel so depressed about the whole thing.. but then this is how it is and I cannot make any tall claims that "Oh! I am so awesome that I will leave my comfortable cubicle and walk miles to help these people". I know right now, I won't.

"I can't" is not an option coz if I am ready to renounce my comfort, I can do anything.

I just sit back here, like a hypocrite, sipping on my green tea and using the latest technology and social media to voice my "oh-so-sympathetic-views".

Man! that sucks.. I mean becoming this person.On days like these, I hate myself..I hate the fact that I am not doing enough for anyone anymore.

I had dreams of changing the face of the country and doing things for people, when I was in school, in college.. and then I got addicted to this life that I live and forgot all of them??

I donno if people who are reading it are awesome or just like me..

But I think, just sending a donation every alternate month through some online service to these people, is not going to help them. Things have to be fixed, at the root-level. HOW? I donno.. right now, I don't.

Just that WE, as people and as a country need help.

I don't think the time is to stay mast and dilchasp... this is probably the time to take charge as a citizen and as a human being to at least create some difference. Coz my success is meaningless as a citizen, if the people in my country are killing themselves over poverty and starving to death.

Depress mat hona padke. Padna.. Sochna.. Bhool Jaana. Bharat Maata ki Jai!!

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About scars, professionalism and blah blah...

The bandage came off today and let me tell you, there are some very gross marks on the hand, that are going to stay for some time, the wound is still there but it is no longer an open wound. I hope though, there are no scars left behind.

During this whole month, I came across different reactions to my accident. Some were heart-warming and some were completely shocking. I concluded people are not at all sensitive to someone's suffering, and not to the 'marks' when it comes to a woman.

Anyways.

I have started traveling for work again and it is difficult you know, to carry luggage with just one hand or even to manage "NOT TO" hurt myself in the public places. Simple tasks such as picking up the dinner plate all by myself are a pain with only my left hand at work.

This whole accident also made me see how people are not sensitive even on professional front. If you won't do it, someone else will - that is the mantra everyone follows.

It is sad that in the race of earning more revenues and all, we end up being insensitive to the people who are responsible for the growth of our business.

No calls from work at all, to ask if I am alive or not.

Worst of all is, people from work who pretended to be considerate otherwise, turned their backs. That is ridiculous, coz it is professional courtesy to call up people you work with.Isn't it? I am highly disappointed with it and let me tell you such an attitude has only one repercussion, the people who passionately worked for the business, take a step back and just do what is required and stop going that extra mile.

I think when someone says there are "Professional", they should really understand what that means, being ruthless or cold is not professional.

I donno how do we categorize such people.. but the whole point is, if a business does not respect the people that helps it in its growth, it cannot survive for long.

That is just my opinion though. I believe in that.

Baaki Chennai is too much of "Ghich Ghich Chip Chip"...but I live next to a beach and trust me, after all the shit I have been through in past one month, this one is a nice break where I have just me for company, I talk to the sea, the birds and sometimes to the beautiful starry sky..

Thank you, God. I needed this, may be. Although, I still miss my friends and wonder if they miss me too :)

Mast raho, Dilchasp raho!!

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Pressure-cooker foot gaya.. BOOOOOOOOM!! :P

So, July 18 2012 is done with. There was a pressure cooker blast while I was cooking and almost everyone I met after that tells me that I am lucky to have survived with just my right-hand badly injured. People die in such accidents or get their faces or limbs disfigured for life :( That's pretty scary. Ni?

To start with, I am better. I use my left hand 100% and my right hand 50% as of now.

Such incidents bring us closer to life, people and some realities. Like, I realized how my friends are few, how my mom loves me to death, how it is SOO important to stay fit and healthy, how it is so difficult to depend on others for basic stuff like "combing your hair" and how resilient I am as a person.

Surprisingly, I also realized that I have quite a threshold for pain. While my mom was screaming and crying at the top of her voice when this accident happened, I was just too calm even in pain, trying to calm her down.

Such a shock it was, the whole food over me.. hot..and our whole kitchen turned into a nightmare.. Tubelights were burst, crockery broken, stove broken, Chimney fell on my head. hehehe!! Now, when I look at all this, I feel so funny.

What a trouble-magnet I am...but then, people of my house should thank me for getting EVERYTHING new in the kitchen..I am still sad that I did not KILL Dad's 1950s mixer-grinder in this accident :P

Sigh!! no matter how much I joke about it.. it was a horrific thing..and I really pray that something like this never happens to ANYONE.

Oh! I forgot to mention the interesting visitors I got. Most of my relatives came up with -- "Haaye! kudi ka mooh teh ni jalyaa? Vyaah kiddaan hoyeha aida?" :P - -Lemme translate, my relatives were more concerned about how will they marry me off if I burnt my face n all. Amazing people.

BTW, I have a funny and cute doctor to tend to me. He is such a positive influence. I still have bandages ON..but I am optimistic.

Thanks to ALL of you for sending across your wishes and yep! one day at a time, I am getting better.

Much love..

Mast raho, Dilchasp Raho..

Footey kittey bhi pressure cooker, Tum Dhinchakk raho! :P

I also know now that Every near-death experience instills a lil more life into me.

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Burnt...not finished yet...

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They told me so...

It is said that people we meet all through our lives, make us the people we become. Today, I plan to blog about a couple of things that were shared with me, by the people I value... at different junctures of my life.

- "Logon ka achcha kiya yaad rakhkho, bura bhool jaao, jeevan sulajh jaayega" - "Always remember the 'good' someone has done to you and forget the 'bad', this would make your life simpler --- Dad

- "Ek chup, sau sukh" - You don't need to respond to every argument or statement. Silence brings along serenity & happiness -- Mom

- "Ati ka bhalaa na bolna, Ati ki bhali naa chup" - "It is not wise to talk too much, or even to stay silent for long. One should balance it well" -- My grandma

- "God always provide you with the much-needed jolt, if he sees you stuck in the dumps for long. You have to make a choice, either STAY in dumps and wait for the jolt, or Take a step forward and get out it" -- My ex-room-mate and friend.

- "Everything in life can be categorized under "Assets" and "Liabilities" -- A friend and guide.

- "There should be only one priority in your life. You" -- My best friend.

- "Never take undue advantage of people. That's just inhuman" -- Dad

- "Love, because it is important to know to 'give without expecting much in return' in life" -- Mom

- "The best way to end an argument is to ask yourself if the relationship is important for you or winning the argument" -- Mom

- "There is one person you can always believe in, You" -- Mom

- "Everybody leaves" -- A man I loved.

- "If it does not make you happy, it is not worth it" -- Friend.

- "Love madly, deeply and unconditionally. That makes you human. No matter how much it hurts" -- A man who loved me.

- "If they don't love you, let go" -- A friend who loved me.

- "A man who would not acknowledge his love for you, is not worth your time" -- A gal friend.

- "Marriage does not need too much work, if you have Love by your side" -- Mom

Will keep sharing some more of these.. tab tak,

Mast Raho, Dilchasp Raho!!

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Why?

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Of men who are jerks, and women who cannot work!!

This post is dedicated to a prospective groom.You guys can stop frowning now. Yep! I had to budge in to parental pressure and meet someone ;) I am somehow feeling dejected that I could not share my blog-link with him, but considering the viability of internet, I am sure sooner or later, he will find his way to my blog.

Dear Maa-da-laadla,

First of all thanks for reaching late at the venue for our supposed 'meeting'. I was secretly smiling to myself when you entered in a grand manner, that too 45 minutes late, like a conventional Delhi ka Punjabi mard."Hum ladke waale hain, toh hum kyon time se aaye?" and not to mention, I am in love with your audacity to not even apologize to my parents for keeping them waiting. Dude, they are old and traveled 70 kms while you live 5 mins away from that damn place YOU chose. That's okay.

By the way, is that how you dress up to meet a woman you are supposed to marry? :O Even that's okay. With due respect, your elder brother is quiet a lecher. Your sis-in-law should keep him in check. Irrelevant. Nice to know that his wife is a doctor and you guys stopped her from practicing coz she is a woman. I have utmost respect for men like you. They should build a temple for you Gods.

By the way, it is absolutely fine that you don't even have enough money to order coffee for yourself and your family.Oh! don't bother, my dad paid for it. Yay!!

I have never met someone as interesting as you before.You are so cute and grammatically challenged that you don't know the basic difference between 'being traditional' or 'being conservative'. Sweet.

I understand you are traditional but frowning when I mentioned about my work-travel, was quiet a bad idea. I understand you have never left your 'maa da aanchal' to explore the world or for that matter your own country, but that does not give you the right to ask me to stop doing that. I really liked your views on women and their approach towards their careers. For example, this one :

He : "I am traditional. In my opinion a woman should not give much preference to their careers after marriage, if they do, who will take care of home?? If a woman tries to be equal to her man, that breaks homes. I think she should sacrifice her career for the same."

Me : Do you think women should work at all in the first place, being a Chartered Accountant yourself?

He : No. No. They should. After all sitting at home and watching saas-bahu soaps won't do them much good. So, for the sake of time-pass they can work.But they have to decide their priorities in life.

Me : *secretly empties the coffee on his head* Oh okay!

My dear, your stupid thought process that men should NEVER cook coz they don't need to, the woman should not travel much, coz she does not NEED to and a woman should never be in a relationship before marriage... just blew my mind.

What a saint!! I wanted to do a quick "paaye laagu" to you.

I don't understand how can a person as well-educated as you, raised in a Metro city, holds such a shallow opinion. Accordingly to you, a romance should be "platonic" between two people else that becomes a problem in marriage. How cute!! ;)

I am amazed how you brother almost puked his coffee out when he got to know that my sis-in-laws travel, as and when, for work and holidays.

I feel sad for people like you and for the person who is going to be with you and your family. You faketards, you want trophy wives to show off -- "Humaari bahu doctor hain, MBA hain", but you won't let them LIVE or BE who they are. You people need someone to make babies for you and have sex with you for free, as per your wish.

No malice in my heart for you. But you really need to come out of that shell and look around. The world is changing. Respect your women and they will love you unconditionally.

Wish you luck with your search for THAT woman. For now, I am glad I don't have to see you again. Else my coffee, your sarr, Saar!! ;)

Mast raho, Dilchasp raho!

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Na haathi hain, Na ghoda hain.. wahan paidal hi jaana hain...

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An ode to the Educated Illiterates (EIs) - Zara hat ke!

Off late my experiences with the so-called 'educated' section of our society have been so disappointing that I am sure that instead of working towards starting a NGO to help the under-privileged, I should start one to educate the EDUCATED or the privileged ones.

I am writing my MBA papers and this weekend while I was waiting in a queue at my examination center for my turn, a gal in her early-20s came from somewhere behind and stood next to me in the queue. I usually ignore such stupid tactics by the so called EIs (Educated Illiterates), but Delhi summers get to you, can't help. As soon as my turn came, she forwarded her hall-ticket to the Exam head, I casually picked up that piece of paper, smiled at her and said,"Can you please tell me one good reason why you forwarded your hall-ticket when it is my turn?". She looked at me in disbelief, with that titli-types attitude. Kids!!

The point of narrating this whole incident is that she was just one of those EIs. We have so many around us all the time, who don't care about what they have been taught all their lives in the posh schools they studied at. Education is supposed to be a powerful tool to be a responsible citizen and a human being, but it is sad that people take it for granted.

So I hereby, I give a tribute to all those EIs I have encountered recently :

1. The Mobile Phone leechs : I understand your life sucks and all, and you wanna die...but please spare the other people who are walking or driving on the roads. If you can't let go of your cellphone while you are driving, stay at home or hire someone to drive you around as you yap yap on the phone.

2. The "Yeh sadak tere baap ki hain kya?" spitters : They don't need a reason or a season. Be it a BMW or a Nano, Be it a corporate honcho or a sarkari daftar ka clerk, everyone competes on the road, for the longest range of spitting. If you ever look at them with disgust or tell them it's wrong, they will set you right.

3. The "Tujhey pata hain main kaun hoon?" rulebreakers : So the netas, the middle class and the upper class, everyone wants their kids to study in the best of international schools...but the end result is always the same. This category suffers from an identity crisis despite all the education and facilities in life. They live "questionable" lives...coz inhe pata nahi ki yeh kaun hain ;)

4. The "Yeh ladizz ki line hain" aunties and kudis : Just for record, there is no ladizz ki line anywhere anymore. The last I heard Indian Railways reservation counters also abolished them in most of the places. These kudis/aunties form a ladizz ki line everywhere, coz 1. they are educated 2. they KNOW the rules.

5. The "Budhdhe marega kya?"yo-yo generation : When I was in school, we were taught that one should respect elders, and trust their judgement in life. What we see on the roads, in public places, in homes is completely opposite these days. This category of EIs, need a "Buddha hoga tera baap" dose from our awesome grandpas and uncles. They donno that desi ghee ke paranthe still have an edge over Burgers :P

6. The Over-smart queue breakers : No matter how long the queue is, these people always have the audacity to walk up to the front and pretend like they belong their for the past 4 hours. Jai ho!

The whole point is... There are many kids who crave for books and studies, but they have to work at the age of 7 itself to earn for their family and here, we have kids who travel in AC cars and udaaofy maa-baap ka paisa but don't realize the importance of what they have.

If this is what our kids are doing after education, it is better to give a chance to the people who really value education, the kids who want, but can't get.

I am sure all of you have met some or the other kind of EIs in your lives. Feel free to add your experiences and categories in comments.

Note : AD gave me this idea of starting an NGO when I was rambling about this wonderful queue-breaker Chikita!

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Flush of Thoughts - 19.05.2012

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Let's diss Aamir and Satyameva Jayate!!

So Aamir's Satyameva Jayate touched many hearts, and not to forget resulted in too many heart-burns.

Sometimes I feel sad for all of us, what have we become? Such cynics, such pessimistic souls...that when someone tries to persuade us to THINK, we slam the person. Why are we so insecure that we always NEED to find a motive behind someone's deeds always?

We are insecure people.. with a thought process "If I could not, how can he?"..

I don't have too much time to go and pull ears of the people who are dissing SJ or Aamir, for that matter. I have a simple thing to say, this guy Aamir, he had a choice...to take up a KBC or Dus ka Dum if it was ONLY about money, but he made THIS choice. He chose to bring forward the same old issues that many in the country are fighting about, because he knew that in a country where no-one bothers even about the problems of their neighbors, STAR-POWER helps!!

I appreciate his choice and I would like to tell a certain Taslima Nasreen that instead of spending her time and energy on questioning why people did not react when so-called common people/activists talked about such issues on televsion?, she should acknowledge that a person who could have easily earned his money from a game show, decided to put in his effort and time into something meaningful...even if let's assume for a second, his MOTIVE was fame.. but does Aamir really need any more fame?

He has not promised a change, He has not promised that he is going to make this country a better place to live in. All he has done is taken a step forward to make people AWARE. He is trying to reach out to people.

So instead of throwing shit at him, Look inwards for once. Did you ever pay attention to any other Zindagi Live or Salaam Zindagi before? Nope. You hardly did. This man has enough money and fame to enjoy as much as he can..so if he has started something as significant as this. Let us sit back and contribute in our way, just by watching and acknowledging the issues so we can accept that "YES! This is my country and atleast I won't let it rot more".

We live almost all our lives with such thoughts when someone tries to shake or wake us up "Saala bakwaas karra hain, nautanki, chal beer uthatey hain, Sunday manaatey hain"... "Picture kon si lagi hain yaar?"

Baaki, as I said once, UNLESS IT HAPPENS TO YOU, IT'S ALL NEWS!! So nobody bothers about female feticide or dowry deaths or rapes or whistle-blowers being killed, unless it happens to them or someone close to them.

So, Mast raho, Dilchasp raho.. bas thoda Satark aur Jaagruk bhi :)

Thanks Sakshi and AD for posting on this :)

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30, Single and Not-sorry :)

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Humpty Dumpty had a great fall :O

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Happiness

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Where do I belong?

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That's how I love

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Sunday Night Horror

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Honey! I dumped you on FB.

Welcome to the FB/twitter generation wherein it is so easy to say it all while hiding behind a computer/phone screen.

Earlier, I used to find this whole thing stupid and funny. Now, as I read about it day after day, in papers, on websites; this whole "Taking your relationship to social networks" sounds utterly scary. I mean people are killing themselves over this!

This whole phenomenon of social networks is making us insensitive towards others, ignorant of our own feelings, cowards and emotionally empty.

Breaking-up on FB/twitter/blogs/texts saves you the trouble of addressing your and your partner's feelings. You can easily hide your cowardice behind flashy status messages like "Hey! I am back to the grind" or "Singledom rocks!!"... OR the simplest of all is Changing your relationship status to let the world and the person involved know that it is over for good.

Okay! Now I find it a little funny :) How kiddish! *laughs*

Slowly and gradually, we are losing our grip on life and relationships because everyone wants virtual validation, wants to be the one with the most followers or most number of FB friends. A lot has been written about it already.. Ironically, I am writing this too on a Social Network and unintentionally seeking validation or criticism in the "Comments" section.

Thanks to Social-Networks, the men are not MAN enough to take a stand and the women are not sensitive enough to talk it out. Friendships, Relationships ... all of them are falling apart and are at the mercy of a status message or a tweet.

I'd rather spare some time later, to write about Social Networks. For now, an article in a paper as to "How to break-up ONLINE?" triggered these thoughts in my head, so I shared.

What's your take on it? Are you brave or humane enough to talk it out with someone in-person or you prefer the coward's way out of relationships?

Sorry, if somebody got hurt while reading the post(like fell off a chair or banged their head on their desks).This is entirely my opinion, people should talk TO people and not ABOUT them... things will become simpler :)

Mast raho, Dilchasp raho!!

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Pyaar ka PUNCH-naama!!

Everyone who asks "What is love?" and looks zara-bahut bhi human, should be hit with a flashlight on his/her head. I find this question utterly stupid. I want to just roll my eyes at them and ask "Dude, your mother threw in the dustbin or what? Why do you think you are here, in this world?".

It is funny how everyone is so busy defining love or finding the relevant definitions for love, that they have forgotten 'LOVE' itself :) Interesting set of people. I have come across a different set of people in the past few years. I thought why not categorize them to make it simpler for my coming generations :

1. The "Love is Bullshit" category : This is some new disease that has spread across the X and Y generations. This category includes some wannabe-cool, some newly heartbroken and some always been ignored kinds. The one in this category secretly wants to be loved and cared for, can't express coz the one who believes in love is supposed to be uncool, thinks "being cold" is IN. Makes fun of couples, try to seek attention by trashing their friends who are in love.

2. The "I am not capable of love" category : This is a "Play Safe" category of people. They WANT to be loved, taken care of and want someone to treat them like a king/queen, but they WILL never commit to their love or a relationship coz again, it is uncool to love,they want to have all the fun in the world without any guilt or sense of responsibility and always want to stay SINGLE :P

3. The "I will never love again" category : This is a "Pyaar ke maare" special category. They dare to love, dare to be vulnerable and someone breaks their hearts so bad that they decide to steer clear of love. This category generally comprises of people with Irreversibly damaged hearts. They go on hurting a couple people after their unsuccessful stint with love and eventually find someone to hold on to later.

4. The "I believe in love no matter what" category : This category comprises of either the ones with successful love-stories or the ones who sleep with a Mills & Boons under their pillows. Most of the times, they do not let anything shake their faith in love. They say love beyond owning someone and also beyond a gal-guy thing.

5. The "I am in love and FB should know" category : This category comprises of the people who post "I love you, jaan" on their lovers' FB walls and post amazing pictures of their love, promoting the world famous "Chipko Movement".:P

As for me, I have been in most of these categories except the 5th one, at some or the other time in my life.

Aapki category kya hain bhayee? Please feel free to add new categories to this post.

Baaki.. Mast raho, Dilchasp raho!!

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Vodka Bytes : 15.01.2012

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Survive the lows, Live the highs.

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Hey gal! You complete him...You complete you.

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Change hain kya?

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Rape Me, my friend.

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Thank you.

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